Mr. Fix-It
Provided by ICPA
Rage, selfishness, and domination are not qualities of real men.
I can remember the day, many years ago, when I first learned that my (fake) “male” tendency to want to fix everything is not something that is helpful in a relationship with a woman.
“Surely if I could fix all of her problems, we could be happy.” That’s what my mind said to itself. I thought it was pretty smart for knowing such things.
But my mind was clueless. My experience showed me that my mind had mastered the ability to think stupid thoughts and still feel smart.
Luckily, the Universe saw fit to put a few resources in my path to show me a better way. One of those was David Deida’s book, Way of the Superior Man. If you’re a man, or if you think you’re a man, or if you hope to be a man someday, it’s a valuable resource to read.
That book was the first time I encountered such a simple summary of the difference between the masculine and feminine:
- The masculine is the silent void, able to remain present in any circumstance.
- The feminine is the wave that never stops flowing.
My quest to figure out what it meant to be a real man began on that day.